Secular & Open-Minded Counseling
Secular Therapy for Divorce Navigation & Healing
A therapy space where your beliefs—or lack of them—are respected. Navigate divorce and relationship decisions without religious pressure or moral judgment.
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Evidence-Based, Values-Neutral Therapy
A Therapy Space That Honors Your Beliefs
(Or Lack Thereof)
I work within your value system, whether that’s secular humanism, personal spirituality, or something entirely your own. No judgment, no conversion attempts, no religious framework unless you bring it.
Atheist, Agnostic & Secular
Many therapists in Texas operate from Christian frameworks—even when they don’t realize it. If you’re non-religious, you’ve probably noticed the subtle (or not-so-subtle) spiritual language that doesn’t fit your worldview. Here, we use clinical concepts and evidence-based approaches.
Alternative & Eclectic Spirituality
If your spirituality looks like tarot, meditation, paganism, ancestor veneration, or something you’ve pieced together yourself, you don’t need a therapist who treats it as “cute” or tries to reframe it through a Christian lens. Your spiritual path is valid on its own terms.
Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM)
If you’re in a polyamorous relationship, open marriage, or any consensual non-monogamous structure, you don’t need a therapist who sees your relationship style as the problem. You need support with the actual challenges: communication across multiple partners, managing jealousy, setting boundaries, scheduling, and handling social judgment.
Religious Trauma & Faith Deconstruction
If you’ve deconstructed your faith, you’re likely dealing with grief, anger, confusion, and guilt—often while navigating judgment from family and former community. You need a therapist who understands that your departure from religion is healing, not backsliding.
Goldfinch Counseling
Helping You Find the Way Forward
Atheist, Agnostic & Secular
It can be difficult for atheists, agnostics, and secular individuals and partners to find a therapist.
A lot of therapists in Texas – even the ones who don’t openly talk about their faith – still operate from Christian assumptions about marriage. You might notice it in subtle ways:
- They assume marriage should be saved at almost any cost
- They focus heavily on forgiveness without examining whether the harm warrants it
- They ask what you’ve “tried” before divorce, like you need permission to leave
- They frame divorce as inherently traumatic rather than sometimes necessary
I don’t have a bias toward staying married or getting divorced.
My job is to help you think clearly about what you actually want and whether your relationship can realistically provide it. Sometimes that means working on the marriage. Sometimes it means ending it. Sometimes it means sitting in the uncertainty while you figure it out.
This matters especially if:
- Your spouse is religious and sees your lack of faith as part of the problem
- Your family thinks divorce is a sin, and you’re tired of that conversation
- You feel guilty about considering divorce, even though you don’t believe in religious teachings about marriage
- You need someone who works from research and psychology, not scripture
- You’re allowed to prioritize your own well-being.
- You’re allowed to leave a marriage that isn’t working.
- You don’t need divine permission.
Spiritually Eclectic
Divorce often brings up big questions about meaning and purpose. If you draw from multiple spiritual traditions or your beliefs don’t fit neatly into one box, you shouldn’t have to explain or justify your path.
I work with people who:
- Blend practices from Buddhism, meditation, yoga, or nature-based spirituality
- Find their spiritual beliefs shifting during major life transitions
- Want space to explore meaning-making without religious pressure
- Need their eclectic spirituality acknowledged, not dismissed
Whether you’re deciding about your marriage, processing separation, or rebuilding after divorce, your spiritual beliefs can be part of the work – not separate from it.
Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM)
Polyamorous and non-monogamous relationships have their own dynamics, and most therapists don’t get it. You need someone who understands ENM without treating your relationship structure as the problem.
I work with ENM clients on:
- Deciding whether to stay in or leave a poly relationship (discernment counseling)
- Navigating transitions between monogamy and non-monogamy
- Communication and boundary issues in existing poly relationships
- Processing breakups in relationship structures that most people don’t understand
You shouldn’t have to educate your therapist about basic ENM concepts or defend your choices. The work here is about what’s actually happening in your relationship and what you want to do about it.
Religious Trauma & Faith Deconstruction
Leaving a marriage while also leaving your religion means processing two massive identity shifts at once.
If you grew up in purity culture, evangelical Christianity, Mormonism, Jehovah’s Witnesses, or other high-control environments, those messages don’t disappear just because you’ve stopped believing them.
Therapy can help you:
- Untangle religious messages about divorce, gender roles, and what you “should” tolerate or do
- Navigate marriage decisions while deconstructing your faith
- Process guilt and shame that’s rooted in religious conditioning, not reality
- Deal with a spouse who’s still religious while you’re not (or vice versa)
The work isn’t about bashing religion – it’s about separating what’s actually happening in your relationship from the religious baggage that might be clouding your ability to see clearly.
Non-Christian Faiths
If you’re Jewish, Muslim, Hindu, Buddhist, Sikh, or practice another non-Christian faith, you shouldn’t have to explain your religious practices or worry about therapist assumptions during an already difficult time.
I work with clients who:
- Want their faith respected and understood, not dismissed or pathologized
- Are navigating tensions between religious community expectations and personal needs
- Need help honoring their faith while addressing real marriage problems
- Are dealing with the intersection of religious and cultural identity during divorce
Your beliefs about marriage, family, and commitment shape how you think about relationships, marriage, divorce, community, family, and yourself in these contexts.
Christian & Faith-Based
If your Christian faith is important to you, you can bring your beliefs, your relationship with God, and your values into this work. I’m not a Christian counselor, but I work with many Christian clients without dismissing their faith.
What that looks like:
- I won’t quote scripture or pray with you, but I will respect and honor your values
- You decide what your faith asks of you in this situation
- Space to explore guilt about divorce, questions about what God wants, or pressure to stay
- Help thinking through decisions that align with your actual values and beliefs
Whether you’re trying to decide about your marriage, working on it as a couple, or processing life after divorce, your faith can be part of the conversation – respected, not dismissed.
