Plano Texas
Marriage & Couple’s Counseling
Helping couples heal and reconnect through the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
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Plano, Frisco, and Prosper Texas
Repair & Reconnect with the One You Love
(or once loved)
We Can Help
While relationships can be the source of joy, connection, and fulfillment, they can also be the source of our greatest distress.
Couples often get stuck in negative cycles of interaction, leading to a downward spiral in their relationships. These can be really hard to identify and fix on your own. It’s helpful to have an unbiased third party – not to play traffic cop, but to help you repair old wounds and create positive cycles of interaction.
We help couples:
- Repair and reconnect.
- Recover from affairs.
- Navigate low desire & mismatched libidos.
- Develop better communication skills.
- Discuss recurring issues in a healthy way.
- Decide if they want to stay together or go their separate ways.
- Talk about the hard things in a safe space.
- And more
Schedule an appointment and let’s work together to improve your relationship.
Infidelity & Affair Recovery
Infidelity can be devastating to a relationship. Sometimes they seem to come out of nowhere, and other times they are the final nail in an already-deal relationship. But sometimes affairs can be a wake-up call that ends up making a relationship stronger.
Some affairs have nothing to do with the primary relationship or the affair partner, but are really about how you become in the arms of another. Or exploring the path not taken.
Affairs are complicated and nuanced. We help couples process and recover from affairs,
We also help individuals, both the betrayed and the one who strayed, to process and make sense of their experience.
Repair and Reconnect
With time, many couples drift apart. Life is busy, hurts accumulation, and sometimes you end up living more like roommates than the lovers you once were.
Some of this is normal – life gets busy and it’s hard to juggle everything. But couples don’t have to grow apart.
Emotional wounds don’t have to fester.
You don’t have to have the same unproductive fights over and over.
The list of “safe topics” doesn’t have to grow until you only talk about the weather and the kids.
Couples therapy can help you reconnect and repair your relationship.
Navigating Low Desire and Mismatch Libidos
It is incredibly common for couples to struggle with mismatched libidos – usually with women (in heterosexual relationships) experiencing lower sexual desire than their male counterparts.
Low desire causes a lot of distress to both partners, with the low-desire partner feeling anxious and pressured into sex while the high-desire partner often feels rejected and frustrated.
Low desire is often pathologized as a problem in one individual. But in reality, it’s a complicated and nuanced situation that usually involves both individuals, their interaction patterns, the structure of home life, and greater societal expectations.
Low desire needs to be explored with sensitivity and open-mindedness.
Learn Better Communication Skills
Do you have the same arguments over and over and nothing changes?
The honest truth is that most couples have some issues that are not resolvable – but they can learn communication skills and tools to help make these discussions more productive.
These discussions can take place in a supportive environment in which you can really feel heard and understood by your partner – even if you still don’t see eye-to-eye.
You first learn to do this in couple’s therapy, with the help of a therapist. But after a while, you learn how to do this at home. Over time, your negative cycles of interaction can become positive cycles, which creates a more fulfilling and supportive relationship.
Decide to Stay Together or Go Your Separate Ways
Not all relationships last forever. Sometimes couples seek counseling to help them decide if they want to continue the relationship or go their separate ways.
If you do decide to go your separate ways, counseling can also help you figure out what that looks like and even say goodbye in a healthy way that gives you both closure.
Talk About the Hard Things in a Safe Space
Sometimes couples need a dedicated. and safe space to talk about the difficult things in their relationship.
If these conversations ae not going well at home (or you avoid them), bring them here! We can help you to feel safe in discussing really hard topics and vulnerable feelings.
This might be related to past trauma, previous relational wounds, infidelity, your real feelings about sex, or any number of other difficult topics.
Nurture Your Friendship
Over time, we change and become different people. It’s easy for couples to drift apart and not even know each other anymore.
Thankfully, there are lots of fun ways to rediscover each other, deepen your friendship, and rekindle romance in your relationship. These build a strong foundation for the future of your relationship.
Develop Healthier Relationships
We could all benefit from having healthier relationships. But how do you actually do that?
Let’s start by looking at your current relationship and then explore the relationships in your family of origin. You’ll start to see patterns and understand more about your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
You may benefit from drawing boundaries, learning how to be assertive, developing better listening and empathy skills, and more.
Just because society says a “normal” relationship (marriage, family, etc.) has to be specific way, doesn’t mean yours needs to be that way. You can decide how you want your future relationships to work. That starts with looking at your past and current relationships and developing new skills.
Gottman & EFT Therapy
We use both the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
Gottman Method
John and Julie Gottman developed the Gottman Method through decades of studying couples in their “love lab.” Their interventions can really help couples better manage conflict and build a strong foundation.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
EFT is a powerful therapeutic tool that helps couples identify and change their cycles of interaction and explore their underlying emotions and needs.
In-person or Online
Plano Texas Therapy
We see therapy clients in-person and online from our Plano, Texas office.
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Schedule an appointment, and let’s get you on a better path.