Plano & Frisco

Mid-Life Crisis Counseling

In-person in Frisco, or online anywhere in Texas.

Goldfinch Counseling

Examine Your Life & Make Changes

middle aged woman discussing midlife anxiety with her therapist

What is a Midlife Crisis?

How are there already more years behind you than ahead of you?

Maybe you were just a young professional with a world to change – or a new parent with all the hopes and dreams for your growing family.

But now life is going too fast, and maybe it’s not turning out as you expected.  It’s even worse when watching your parent age; it feels like you’re looking at a future you don’t want.

It’s common to contemplate mortality and reflect on what you have done with your life so far and what you want to do with your remaining time.

Midlife is a common time of questioning and emotional turmoil, and you may find yourself thinking:

“My life is not going the way I planned.”

 

“I hate my job.  Is it too late for a new career?”

 

“I love my partner, but I kind of wish…”

 

“Wait – I have more years behind me than ahead of me”?

 

“Who am I?  Who do I want to be”?

 

“I kind of wish I had a different life”.

 

“I have unfulfilled hopes and dreams.”

 

“I’m watching my parents suffer with chronic health conditions.  I don’t want to follow in their path.”

 

“I don’t want to die.  I have so much that I still want to do.”

 

“I feel trapped by my life and obligations.”

We can help you reflect on these thoughts and feelings and figure out how to make changes so that you are living a more meaningful and purposeful life that incorporates your hopes and dreams.

Career Midlife Crisis

We spend so much of our time at work, and unlike past generations, we experience work as a way to create purpose and fulfillment.  So, when you feel unfulfilled, stagnant, or bored at work, these feelings of dissatisfaction bleed into your non-work life and can impact your relationships and overall well-being.

You might feel:

  • Unfulfilled or bored with work.
  • Lack motivation or interest.
  • Like your work is meaningless.
  • Unappreciated or unrecognized in your current role.
  • As if you are not fulfilling your potential.
  • You are at a dead-end, and there’s nothing else to strive for.

You might want to consider changing jobs or careers.  This can be a small or a big change.  Maybe you already know what you want to do.  Maybe you wish you have a certain career, but it seems inaccessible given your other life obligations. 

Let’s brainstorm together.  We’ll examine your skills and interests and look for options you may not have considered.  Let’s explore your hopes and dreams and find a career that can make your life more fulfilling and meaningful.  

a woman with social anxiety working through her fear
midlife couple having a pillow fight during a midlife crisis

Relationship Midlife Crisis

We all grow and change over time.  Maybe your spouse or partner is not the same person they were when you married.  Maybe you’re not the same person. Perhaps you’ve drifted apart while juggling home, work, and family obligations.  

You may be able to rekindle the love and passion that you once had.  Couples therapy can be incredibly helpful in this way.  

Or maybe your relationship has been on the rocks for years.  Maybe you want to go your separate ways but need help exploring what that might look like.  

Maybe you’re having an affair, and your spouse or partner doesn’t know.  Maybe you’re racked with guilt, or maybe you’ve found the love of your life, and you can’t imagine your life without them.

It can be incredibly helpful to process midlife relationship issues with an open-minded and non-judgemental therapist.  

    Identity Midlife Crisis

    It’s quite common to have a crisis of identity as you reach middle age.  Maybe you have spent the last two decades raising kids who now have their own lives.  Perhaps you are wondering who you are now.  Maybe you were married, and now you’re divorced. You’re still a parent, but your kids don’t need you in the same way.

    Who are you now?  Who do you want to be?  It’s okay if you don’t know.

    It might be time to reinvent yourself.  Let’s examine how you’ve spent your life, what is working for you, and what is not. Let’s look at your unfulfilled hopes and dreams and figure out how to create meaning and purpose in your life.

    middle aged asian woman questioning her identity
    middle aged woman concerned about aging

    Aging Midlife Crisis

    When did you become middle-aged?  You were just a young adult, right?  And now you have graying hair, sagging skin, a thicker mid-section, and maybe some health concerns.

    And watching your parents age isn’t helping!  It’s actually quite horrifying, and you hope to avoid a similar fate.

    It’s stressful and weighs on your mind.  Therapy can help.  It’s a place to:

    • Explore your existential anxiety
    • Reflect on concerns and regrets
    • Look for new opportunities
    • Embrace new experiences and opportunities
    • Focus on growth and self-discovery
    • Learn coping skills and new ways of thinking.

    These are common concerns and we can work on them together.

     

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      Our Location

       We see therapy clients in-person and online from our Frisco, Texas office.

      Most of our clients are from:

      • Allen
      • Plano
      • Frisco
      • Murphy
      • McKinney
      • Prosper
      • Richardson
      • Dallas

      Schedule an appointment, and let’s get you on a better path.